Refusing to quit or give up has been one of the best decisions I continuously make throughout my life. It is during the thick of things when the temptation to throw in the towel becomes stronger than ever. I remember when I was a Sophomore in college, 19 years old, and found out I was pregnant with my now 15-year-old son. Back then, many expected me to quit college and drop out, but I didn’t. Despite how tough it got, I persevered and endured the challenges, even earning my name on the Dean’s list as I worked my butt off to step on the stage to accept my bachelor’s degree while my one-year old son was in the stands cheering for me. That was my first taste of enduring a process. This is actually my reference point I use when the going gets tough and I want to quit or throw in the towel on whatever endeavor or goal I am working toward. I refer back to that moment, when I could have easily become yet another statistic, but I chose not to. I chose to endure the process, do the work, and reap the rewards and benefits in the end.
Throughout my journey, I have had many goals and desires I continuously work toward achieving: strengthening my relationship with God goals, health and fitness goals, financial goals, career and entrepreneurial goals, relationship and friendship goals, and the list goes on and on and so forth. I have this radical belief that I can have it all, in EVERY. SINGLE. AREA. of my life! Period. So, I have been diligently working in all areas to ensure I have been creating the life I want to live. With that comes challenges, obstacles and unexpected delays, because well, life happens. It is during those times where my will to persevere is often tested the most. It has been during these times where I discover what I am really made of, discover hidden gifts, talents, and potential inside of me and even shock and amaze myself at how I am constantly able to pick myself back up regardless of how many times I fall. Dusting my knees off is nothing new to me, in fact, I’ve been doing it since I was a little girl.
Admittedly, there have been times in more recent years where I was ready to throw in the towel on many things… I was struggling in areas that I felt maybe I would never see what I was desiring to experience come into fruition. I wanted meaningful and supportive friendships; a healthy, fit, toned and flexible body; a stable, healthy and tough mindset; a successful brand which generated lucrative streams of income; and more. I was in the thick of the process (and honestly, I am still in the process in some areas). I was not experiencing the results I was desiring and was feeling like giving up. Yet, I tried, just one more time. I tried clean eating and being consistent with physical exercise and have now lost nearly 20 pounds. I discovered healthy meals and exercises I enjoy that allow me to build a healthy, fit, toned, and flexible body while healing, repairing and rebuilding strength from an old injury. I opened myself up more to genuine people and have supportive, fulfilling and genuine friendships. I tried love just one more time (as Maya Angelou said) and I married the love of my life last year. I used my pain to birth a powerful message and I use that message during my speaking engagements and in coaching others. I realized that the process is where greatness is birthed.
The process is where we learn, grow, and become better versions of ourselves. The process is where mistakes and perceived failures are used as learning lessons and stepping stones toward growth, progress, improvement and success. If we quit during the process, we risk becoming stuck and never evolving to the other side. Often times, our breakthroughs are just on the other side, at that moment where quitting is the most tempting. However, the other side is where dreams and desires are revealed and experienced. The other side is where you reap the benefits of not giving up. But that’s the key, you cannot give up! Quitting does not get you any closer to your dreams, it only makes it impossible for them to come into fruition. If you have a deep and burning desire in your heart, you must persevere and continue to endure the process so you can experience that desire in your life.
The process is where the capacity for your appreciation for that desire is built. We tend to have a greater appreciation for those things we had to work hard for. When life just hands us things, or things just fall onto our laps, we may not honor or appreciate it as much. Yet, when required to endure a process, and are finally blessed with that answered prayer, given that deep burning desire, or reap the rewards of hard work and efforts, we tend to take care of it, nurture it, and protect it more thoughtfully.
Processes of any kind are not meant to tear us down, rather to build us into stronger and better versions of ourselves. If you truly desire to be, do, or have something in life, don’t give up on it. Don’t quit! You owe it to yourself to see what you are made of. You owe it to yourself to prove to yourself that you were capable all along to be, do or have whatever was in your heart, but that you just had to believe in yourself. In fact, it is when we truly believe in ourselves that quitting is no longer an option on the table. I dare you to spend 2019 persevering, so you can experience what it is like to live on the other side!
Love & Growth,
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