Letting go, surrendering, releasing… these words and phrases can be frightening to anyone who has an attachment to any person, place, thing, past or current situation, or outcome. Attachment is a part of what makes us human. However, letting go is what gives us strength and opens up a world full of possibilities to us. Sometimes the hardest things to let go of, are the very things that are holding us back in life – relationships, limiting beliefs, resentments, old junk, etc. A clear sign that it is time to let go is that it is hurting you more to hold on to something than it is to let it go. Sometimes it can be scary to let go of something, not knowing what is next. However, if you will be courageous enough to activate your faith, you’ll soon see that you were holding yourself back from something greater!
Here are 5 ways to let go of whatever is no longer serving you best, and free yourself to the limitless possibilities life has to offer:
1) Recognize that sometimes holding on is more of a hindrance than a benefit. For example, if you are holding onto a certain person in your life, but that person’s presence in your life is bringing more pain and sorrow than good, it may be time to let go. It could be a romantic partner, friend, or an associate. Whomever it may be, it is perfectly okay to outgrow people, set boundaries, and to even love someone from a distance. This is a sign that you value healthy interactions and relationships in your life. Try not to look at it as you’re letting go of someone, rather you are shifting into a different phase into your life and that phase is requiring you to shed some weight. Sometimes that weight can be translated as people. Don’t allow guilt to cripple you and cause you to stay stuck in situations that are not serving you well. You are only delaying the inevitable.
2) Acknowledge that you have been holding onto past resentments that have now made you angry and bitter. You’ve been holding onto them for far too long now; it’s time to let them go. It shows in your interactions with others, your countenance, your demeanor and even your voice tone. Harboring unforgiveness in your heart is not hurting the other person, it is hurting you. Let it go so that you can be set free. You’ll feel like you’ve literally released an enormous amount of weight, which will cause you to feel lighter internally. It will then be reflected in your physical appearance and life in general.
3) Know yourself well enough to know your own thoughts. Negative thinking and limiting beliefs can creep upon you so suddenly that you may not even be aware of when you sound like a “negative Nancy.” By practicing awareness of your own thoughts and feelings, you can take notice in how certain thinking traps are inhibiting you from seeing certain circumstances differently. There is always a positive to a circumstance or situation, we just have to open our eyes to see it. Also, negative thinking can turn into negative words, which can produce negative outcomes. Unbeknownst to some, we do have power in what we say. If you don’t like something, rather than complaining about it, try to create a solution. Let go of the “stinking thinking” mentality. It is not serving you well. Dwelling on problems does not change them. Focusing on solutions creates change.
4) Let go of the way you thought things should have, could have, or would have been. Detaching from your own expected outcomes can free you from disappointments experienced when situations or circumstances do not turn out as you thought they should have. Sometimes we can become so attached to an outcome, that we lose sight on the reality that sits in front of us. Do not allow your attachments to get in the way of your judgment. You may have ignored red flags, or even “missed the bus” because you are so focused on the outcome. You can miss some valuable lessons by not remaining present in the moment. Let go of what and how you thought things should have been, and embrace the now. Embrace life for what it is in this moment. You only get this moment once.
5) Release anything that is not useful and meaningful to you. Are you holding on to old stuff? Are you hoarding bins or boxes full of old memories that you should’ve thrown away years ago? What about old clothes you no longer wear? It’s time to let go of the things that are taking up too much space in your life. Sometimes the best way to anticipate the new, is by getting rid of the old!
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