As we are on the cusp of yet another new year, I couldn't help but to reflect on the ups and downs of 2016. This has been a challenging year for me. I've experienced disappointments and doors slammed in my face while working toward advancing my career. My home was broken into and mostly everything of value was stolen from me and my son. I had relationships with others where their season had run its course and it was time to let go of what used to be. I also ate quite a few pieces of humble pie as I faced myself in the mirror and came to terms with areas I personally needed to evolve in.
Yet, 2016 has also blessed me with some awesome experiences that I wouldn't trade for the world! I've grown tremendously as I courageously hurdled over each obstacle thrown in my path. I grew closer to friends and family after they showed me they truly have my back when I needed them most. I made a brave leap into the blogging world as I launched my first blog post and website this year. I also announced to the world the forthcoming release of my first published book coming out in February 2017. I eliminated more debt. I traveled with a new friend across the country to hike all weekend in Utah. I overcame trials, was strengthened through each adversity, and grew a deeper form of resiliency in 2016. My relationship with my Creator deepened as I drew closer for guidance, wisdom and learned to trust in God more.
I learned what I wish to carry into 2017, and what I MUST leave behind in 2016. While I'm not too keen on creating resolutions, I do believe in creating goals and action steps to help accomplish those goals. I've already been in the process of making a shift toward a more enlightened, transformed and empowered version of myself for the forthcoming year through revelations, choices made, and action-based decisions as I continue to work toward a better me.
As the leaves fall during autumn and the seasons transition into the next, there are things which must be left behind while transitioning into a year full of purpose, destiny and endless possibilities. Below are 12 things for you to leave behind in 2016:
Procrastination delays the inevitable which does no good. In fact, it can create unnecessary stress when you are suddenly forced to work under limited time constraints due to your own negligence. Stop putting those tasks off and get to 'em! "If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!" - Benjamin Franklin
Negative thinking accomplishes nothing but can destroy everything. Practice shifting your perception on life's circumstances. You may see the glass is half full, rather than half empty.
Talking about other people you're mad at behind their back does not solve the problem. It perpetuates your frustrations and encourages avoidance of potential conflict. Your feelings matter too. So, you should not feel any angst about talking to the actual person you have an issue with. By being kind and tactful in your approach, you may see that your speculation and assumptions for conflict were all in your head. It's time to grow up!
Envying other's controlled social media content is a disservice to your own happiness and self-esteem. It takes seconds to snap a photo. However, you don't know what truth exists behind the camera lens. Be careful admiring photos that were purposely chosen to be placed on social media. Be grateful for your own journey in life.
Blaming others for your own crap. The blame game has caused no wins in life. If you truly want to win at life, accepting some responsibility for your own actions, thoughts and feelings will help you. No one is to blame for the choices you make, the thoughts you entertain, or the feelings you choose to experience but yourself. Point the finger back at yourself and watch your life begin to change in a positive way!
Lack of accountability for your own junk is keeping you stuck. Let's face it, we all have some sort of baggage. Some more or less than others. However, if you are the one who has more than others and in denial about it, you are causing more grief to yourself and those around you than you realize. Baggage shows up in the way of distrust, selfishness, anger, bitterness, and insecurities. Stop projecting your junk onto others! It's not a good look. Don't push good people out of your life because you've become a "bag lady." Drop the load!
Taking things personally is hurting you more than you realize. Often times, the alleged offense you're taking personally was never about you. Most people do not intentionally set out to harm or attack you. In fact, most people have their own day-to-day worries on their minds that do not even concern you. Stop making everything about you. "Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves." - "The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz
Insecurities lead to jealousy. If you have areas within yourself that you are not secure or confident in, you could find yourself easily becoming jealous of one who does not have that problem. Also, it's not fair to project your insecurities onto someone else through acts of jealousy. Clean your act up and learn to be a supporter and an encourager, not a Debby Downer and a Petty Patty.
Stop cutting people out of your life because they're not perfect. There's a difference between imperfection and toxicity. We're all imperfect people who make mistakes. If those in your life apologize for their mistakes with changed behavior, they're keepers!
Release toxic relationships and/or friendships. Relationships that aren't healthy, growing you, pouring into you, holding you accountable, and reciprocating what you are putting into it will leave you with an empty cup. You'll feel depleted and worn down. It's not worth it. Value and protect your energy and own self-care. You are worth it!
Fear is the enemy of your life and the thief of your dreams. If you haven't noticed, time is of the essence. If you haven't done something due to fear, I challenge you to do it afraid! Don't leave this earth with regret in your heart. You only get one shot at this journey called life. Make it count!
Trying to impress other people is dead. Stop seeking external validation through other people. Be unapologetic about who you are. So what you're different! That's what makes you YOU! Those who matter won't mind and those who don't matter will. Embrace your uniqueness. "No one is you and that is your power."
I wish you all peace, love, healing, light, success and abundance in 2017. It's time to be great! Happy New Year!